The Aftermath of Trauma: How to Recover, Rewire, and Thrive in Our Relationships with the Self and Others with Dr. Tian Dayton & Dr. Michelle Stevens

Original Air Date Wednesday, July 10, 2019

As children, we are at our most vulnerable. We rely on parents or caregivers, family members, teachers, or clergy to take care of our basic physical and emotional needs. We have no choice but to rely on the adults in our lives. But what happens to our conscious mind when trust, connection, or security is never established with someone we depend on? What happens when someone chooses substance abuse over our well-being or abuses us sexually and emotionally? Are we able to heal from a childhood rife with disconnection and oppression? To
unravel the root of recovery, Positive Psychology Podcast Host, Lisa Cypers Kamen speaks with two female authors who aim to help others in the recovery process. Dr. Tian Dayton discusses how adult children of alcoholics, who grew up in chaos often lack the skills necessary to self-regulate their emotions and become involved in an intimate relationship. And Dr. Michelle Stevens shares a harrowing story of how her mind created another personality to retreat from the sexual abuse and torture of her childhood, and how she overcame her challenges to thrive in her quest to help others.

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Dr. Tian Dayton — Breaking the Cycle of Trauma:
  • Dr. Dayton describes the emotional PTSD triggers adult children of alcoholics incur during relationships. [2:10]
  • The fourth trimester of a child’s growth includes learning to self-regulate their emotions. [5:31]
  • Intimacy brings out all parts of us including the vulnerable parts from our past. [11:10]
  • Healing ourselves is work that affects those we love. [23:37]

Dr. Tian Dayton is the Director of Program Development for Breathe Life Healing Center. She is the author of fifteen books, most recently The ACOA Trauma Syndrome: The Impact of Childhood Pain on Adult Relationships. Dr. Dayton has earned has a master’s in educational psychology and a Ph.D. in clinical psychology and is a board-certified trainer in psychodrama, sociometry and group psychotherapy. In addition, Dr. Dayton is Editor in Chief of the Journal of Psychodrama, Sociometry and Group Psychotherapy. She sits on the professional
standards committee and blogs for Counselor Magazine, Recovery View and The Huffington Post.

Book: The ACOA Trauma Syndrome: The Impact of Childhood Pain on Adult Relationships


Tian Dayton Website
@Tian_Dayton on Twitter
Tian Dayton on Facebook

Dr. Michelle Stevens — Constructing a Future Free From Trauma:
  • Dr. Stevens shares insights about who child molesters really are. [28:13]
  • Victims of abuse are 80% more likely to have psychological symptoms, such as Dissociative Identity Disorder as adults. [32:41]
  • Dr. Stevens repressed any memory of abuse until she found her way out of it. [40:50]
  • Common traumas that are easily overlooked. [46:05]

Dr. Michelle Stevens, a psychologist, is the founder and director of Post- Traumatic Success, a nonprofit organization dedicated to educating and inspiring those affected by psychological trauma. She studied writing at New York University before earning her doctorate in clinical psychology from Saybrook University, where her thesis was honored as the Dissertation of Distinction.  Stevens has presented her research to the International Society for the Study of Trauma and Dissociation and the Los Angeles County Psychological Association,
where she also received an award for Outstanding Research. She works with survivors around the globe as a therapist, speaker, and advocate, encouraging them to heal, grow and fight for better lives. She lives in Los Angeles with her wife and son.

Book: Scared Selfless: My Journey from Abuse and Madness to Surviving and Thriving


Scared Selfless Website
@DrMStevens on Twitter
Michelle Stevens PhD on Facebook

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