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12 Life Skills that can Change Your World
“What we hold dear can heal the world.” –Mark Nepo
Twelve-steps needn’t be limited to just substance-abuse recovery. Think about the number twelve in common cycles like the months in a year, weeks in a season or quantity in a dozen. This article is the sixth in a twelve-part series highlighting top life-enhancing practices that can make us feel happier, healthier and more alive. By focusing our attention on these integrated positive life skills, we begin a synergistic practice that leads to permanent proficiency by building a useful toolbox for greater self-mastery. Each of the skills in this series is well defined in order to give clarity, direction and action challenges that can help the curious and willing reader cultivate greater wellbeing and flourishing in your daily life. People who consider themselves to be most satisfied with their lives recognize that by constantly challenging themselves to learn, grow and expand they feel more alive connected, and joyful in the world. Your mission, if you choose to accept it, is to open your heart and mind in order to soar! Read on…practice makes permanent…
Four Facts About Focusing Attention Towards Opportunity
Lisa Cypers Kamen, MA
Just last week as I was getting ready for the day, I dropped one of my earrings in the sink and it went down the drain. Then, I made a pot of coffee, and spilled on my new shirt. It was not a good start to my morning to say the least. My first thought was: “I’m having a horrible day.” And, you know what? I did. My negative mindset impacted my entire day. Since I would not let it go, it just continued throughout my day. I felt like a storm cloud had formed over my head, and was following me around.
Have you had one of those days, weeks, or, has it been months now? I’m here to tell you that we have to kick that negative mindset to the curb in order to see the opportunity that is right in front of us.
“A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.” –Winston Churchill
In order to change our negative mindsets, we can start thinking of problems and challenges as opportunities. This immediately shifts our energy. We begin to think of how we can take action. Our perspective and our reality have been altered for the better. We create a flexible and optimistic mindset as we see these challenges as opportunities. The ability to transcend adversity is an important perspective in life, because it enables us to build our lives in positive ways. It provides us with a foundation to build a whole new life upon. Next time you find yourself having a rough day such as locking your keys in the car, or stepping in a dog pile that your neighbor failed to pick up (again!), turn these challenges into opportunities for yourself to grow.
Here are some tips as to how you can build a more positive mindset:
1. YOUR SENSE OF HUMOR: Sometimes you need to laugh at yourself. Smiling immediately enhances a person’s mood. Laughter has been scientifically proven to have a positive effect in our lives. The bonus is that when we show that we can poke fun at ourselves, and not always take ourselves so seriously, the people around us will notice this.
- – Write down 3-6 ways you can bring more humor and joy into your life. Some ways are by watching humorous films and television shows. Others are downloading great comedians and watching their acts. What can you do to bring more humor into your life?
- – After you’ve watched a particularly comedic film or show, note in your journal how you feel immediately afterward. Has your mood changed? If so, how?
2. COMMIT: It’s easy to say that you will start thinking more positively and less negatively, but to actually do this takes a lot of work. When you feel yourself focusing on the negative aspects of an event, or situation, try to alter it. Remember, practice makes permanent.
- – Create some new strategies. Write down 2-3 situations in your life right now that you have a tendency to think negatively about. Now, do the opposite. Write down anything that can be positive about the situation, or how you can turn it into a positive. What can you do? Who can you talk to? How can you reach out and turn the situation around?
3. JUST SAY THANKS: Everything that you have, you should be grateful for. All too often we take these things for granted, including friends and family. Utilize what you have, and make use of it in the most constructive way that you can.
- – Write down 5-10 things you’re grateful for in your life right now. Do this daily.
- – Write down 5 strategies to encourage yourself to feel more grateful. What can you do to encourage yourself to appreciate what you have in life?
4. AVOID NEGATIVE ENVIRONMENTS: You can choose your environment (most of the time); so if you find yourself in a negative environment, then simply do not surround yourself with it anymore. Choose the positive environment that will affect your mindset in the most beneficial way possible.
- – Write about any negative environments that you have a tendency to be a part of. Now, write down way you can extricate yourself from those people and situations.
Where you focus is where you will find yourself.
With BIG gratitude and HUGE support,