Practicing Positive Psychology and Mindfulness to Build Long-lasting, Loving Relationships with James Pawelski, Ph.D. and Suzie Pileggi Pawelski & Dr. Cheryl Fraser

Original Air Date Wednesday, Aug 7, 2019

The average relationship length is getting shorter and shorter. If your current relationship has continued for longer than three years you are beating the odds and are now in a long-term relationship. If you value the relationship and want it to last long-term, or if you are in a longer-term pairing and want to rekindle it, it requires practice, skills, and mindfulness. Research tells us that there are certain pitfalls couples fall into that can sabotage a loving relationship. It also tells us that there are simple ways to avoid the pitfalls to keep long-term relationships fresh and sensual. To unearth what makes a solid foundation for keeping a long-term relationship happy and healthy, Positive Psychology Podcast Host, Lisa Cypers Kamen speaks with three experts in the field of love and connection. James Pawelski and his long-term partner, Suzie Pileggi Pawelski share their insights about how we can build stronger emotional bonds. And, Dr. Cheryl Fraser enlightens us about the art of seduction and how to keep the romance alive.

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James Pawelski & Suzie Pileggi Pawelski — Build Better Relationships:
  • In their book, Happy Together, James and Suzi describe the concept of building relationship skills in the relationship gym. [3:04]
  • Is the notion of finding a soulmate something to aspire to? [9:43]
  • How Aristotle’s philosophy applies to today’s relationships. [14:53]
  • The importance of savoring gratitude to create stronger bonds. [20:03]

James Pawelski, Ph.D., is Professor of Practice and Director of Education in the Positive Psychology Center at the University of Pennsylvania, where he co-founded the world’s first Master of Applied Positive Psychology Program with Martin Seligman. The Founding Executive Director of IPPA, he is currently leading a three-year, multi-million-dollar grant investigating connections between the science of well-being and the arts and humanities.

Suzie Pileggi Pawelski has a Master of Applied Positive Psychology degree from the University of Pennsylvania. She is a freelance writer and well-being consultant specializing in the science of happiness and its effects on health and relationships. Suzie blogs for Psychology Today and writes the “Science of Well-being” column for Live Happy, where she is also a contributing editor.

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Dr. Cheryl Fraser — Unconditional Love in Relationships:
  • Dr. Fraser explains how we can apply mindfulness to our sexuality. [28:21]
  • Strategies for falling in love over and over with the same person. [30:52]
  • How mindfulness can help you overcome the #1 sexual complaint of couples in a relationship. [34:57]
  • The art of seduction inside and outside of the bedroom. [37:22]

Dr. Cheryl Fraser is a Fulbright Fellowship award-winning psychologist and sex therapist who combines academic credibility, humor and straight talk to provide expertise for all manner of modern media. As a columnist for Mindful and Best Health magazines, she explores love, sex, relationships, meditation, and the human experience. She created the Become Passion home study series and the Awakened Lover weekend intensive “boot camp” for couples. She has a private practice in sex and couples therapy. Cheryl’s approach to life and to helping others is based on her practice of meditation and Buddhism, which she has studied for 25 years. She has completed several three-month silent meditation retreats, and she is the resident meditation teacher for Island Dharma. Her work is encapsulated in the teaching of Mindful Loving. She is at work on her first book, Mindfulness and Sex and her online program Love School.


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