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Conscious Coupling: Relationship Maintenance Tune-Up with Raffi Bilek, LCSW-C

Long-term relationships require consistent relationship maintenance and a shared commitment to making it work. By embracing conscious coupling, we take the lead on our own emotional growth, learning how to handle the messy stuff instead of sweeping it under the rug. Improving our partner communication means listening to our partners even when we want to speak.

To discover tried-and-true relationship maintenance techniques, Harvesting Happiness Podcast host Lisa Cypers Kamen welcomes author and couples counselor Raffi Bilek back to the show.

Raffi doubles down on his straightforward and simple strategies designed to deepen partner connection and foster conscious coupling. He shares relatable examples taken from his book, The Couples Communication Handbook: The Skills You Never Learned for the Marriage You Always Wanted.

Original Air Date Wednesday, May 6, 2026

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Meet Our Guest:

Raffi Bilek works with couples around the world, helping them to shore up their relationships and get their communication dialed in. He is the author of The Couples Communication Handbook: The Skills You Never Learned for the Marriage You Always Wanted and the father of four lovely girls who give him a run for his money.

Book: The Couples Communication Handbook: The Skills You Never Learned for the Marriage You Always Wanted

Raffi Bilek—Relationship Maintenance & Conscious Coupling:

Forgetting who is right and who is wrong is necessary for relationship maintenance. {2:20}
Qualities that build quality relationships. {10:01}
Partner communication tips. {13:04}
Conscious coupling is the key to long-term relationships. {20:34}

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