Creating and Sustaining Intimate Relationships That Stand the Test of Time with Dr. Harville Hendrix, Dr. Helen LaKelly Hunt, & Dr. Gary Salyer

 

Original Air Date Wednesday, July 29, 2020 

 

This episode is about building sustainable, romantic relationships. The type of love we received in our childhood is imprinted in our brains. Early feelings and emotions color every single action we take in our adult life unless we rewire our neural pathways. Compassionate communication can improve the quality of our relationships and our lives. When we understand that we deserve love, we are able to be our fully vulnerable, beautiful selves with our partners to create long-lasting happy, fulfilling relationships that allow both partners to thrive. Positive Psychology Podcast Host, Lisa Cypers Kamen speaks with three authors who have done the work toward creating better relationships for themselves and others. Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt met 42 years ago and have since created Imago Relationship Therapy and written the eternal book, Get the Love You Want. And, Gary Salyer is the author of Safe to Love and has dedicated his life to understanding how new neural pathways can be created.

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Harville Hendrix & Helen LaKelly Hunt — Sustaining Intimate Relationships:
 
  • The relationship progression of Helen and Hendrix was rocky but led to recommitment. [1:48]
  • The 3-step dialogue process Harville created to help couples communicate and to keep love alive. [6:50]
  • The Imago therapy process focuses on creating safety in relationships and using tension for creative conflict resolution. [19:59]

Harville Hendrix, Ph.D. and Helen LaKelly Hunt, PhD., co-created Imago Relationship Therapy, a unique healing process for couples, prospective couples, and parents. Together they have more than thirty years’ experience as educators and therapists and their work has been translated into more than 50 languages, with Imago practiced by over two thousand therapists worldwide. Harville and Helen have six children and live in New York and Dallas.

Book: Getting the Love You Want: How to Experience More Satisfying Relationships and Build a Lasting Source  of Comfort and Intimacy with Your Partner

Harville and Helen Website

@HarvilleHelen on Twitter

Harville and Helen on Facebook

@HarvilleHendrix on Instagram

@HelenLaKellyHunt on Instagram

 

 

 

 

 

Gary Salyer — Overcoming Childhood Woes and Realizing Your Right to Be Loved:

 
  • Gary describes why he dedicated his life to understanding how humans can rewire their brains. [32:41]
  • The 6 rights that create the 4 feelings that form your love style. [34:54]
  • Gary describes how the brain reacts to having a borderline parent. [42:48]
  • Neuroplasticity, how the brain deletes information that doesn’t meet our identity, and getting outside support. [46:21]
  •  Attuning to the dynamics of a lasting relationship. [55:50]

Dr. Gary D. Salyer is the creator of the Safe to Love Again™ and the Extraordinary Couples™ Retreats along with various other programs. A former graduate professor, he is the author of the forthcoming book, Safe to Love Again.

Book: Safe to Love Again: How to Release the Pain of Past Relationships and Create the Love You Deserve

 

Gary Salyer Website

@GaryDSalyer on Twitter

Safe to Love Again on Facebook

@dr.gary.salyer on Instagram

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