Digital Dalliances and Interpersonal Civility: Socializing in the 21st Century with Luvvie Ajayi & Professor Russell Golman

Original Air Date Wednesday, November 28, 2018 

Socializing with friends can bring happiness and fulfillment to our lives.

But when a large percentage of our friends exist only online, do we miss many of the rewarding aspects of friendship? When faced with hardship or tragedy can online support be enough to accommodate true healing? Where do we draw the line between virtual and physical connections? Host, Lisa Kamen welcomes two observers of digital declarations, Luvvie Ajayi and Professor Russell Golman. Luvvie takes a jocular punch at social media realities and hashtag madness and Professor Golman describes how our digital behavior corresponds to happiness and our collective welfare.


Luvvie Ajayi — Social Media Scribe to Bestselling Author:
● Racism is for A*Holes — How current events are a catalyst for change. [4:21]
● Luvvie describes social media realities and essays from her book, I’m Judging You: The Do Better Manual. [7:35]
● The perks and pitfalls of socializing on the internet. [18:32]
● Luvvie’s essays tackle real-life, interpersonal issues such as relationship decisions, feminism, and spirituality. [21:02]

Luvvie Ajayi, award-winning writer, pop culture critic, is the comedic voice behind the popular blog, which has caught the attention of likes of Shonda Rhimes and Ava DuVernay for both her ‘Scandal’ recaps and social commentary. Luvvie is also a digital strategist, and noted speaker. Luvvie was born in Nigeria and now lives in Chicago.

Book: I’m Judging You: The Do Better Manual

Awsomelyluvvie Website
@iLuvvit on Twitter
Awesomely Luvvie on Facebook

Professor Russell Golman — Theorizing Civility:
● Professor Golman describes the intricacies of studying behavioral economics and social norms. [32:55]
● What role does age play in a person’s happiness level? [38:32]
● Facing temptation — What drives our buying decisions? [40:30]
● Economists study the reward of civility and incivility. [42:48]
● How tragedies transform communities. [47:11]
● How money, social media use, and hope influence happiness. [53:16]

Russell Golman is an Assistant Professor of Behavioral Economics and Decision Sciences in the Department of Social & Decision Sciences at Carnegie Mellon University. Professor Golman combines economics, psychology, and mathematics to develop theories about why people make the choices they make. He is known for his behavioral decision research on the topic of belief-based utility and his behavioral game theory research on the topic of strategic decision making in social interactions. His pioneering, interdisciplinary research has been published in academic journals in economics, psychology, and decision making.


Russell Golman on Carnegie Mellon Website

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