Deconstructing Discord: The Rewards of Effective Communication with Amy Herman & Ed Tronick Ph.D.
Original Air Date Wednesday, March 9, 2021
Have you given any thought to your problem-solving abilities? When discord arises in personal relationships or business affairs, what strategies do you employ to bring about amicable resolutions? Communication issues can be overcome and in many cases, the resolution can solve problems and reward those involved by building deeper, more intimate relationships.
To deconstruct how to build better relationships through effective communication, Positive Psychology Podcast Host Lisa Cypers Kamen speaks with two authors about the fine points of solving problems and discord in relationships. Amy Herman discusses some structural strategies for solving communications problems through the lens of fine art taken from her book, Fixed: How to Perfect the Fine Art of Problem Solving, and shares examples of how she assists her highly-sensitive clientele. Ed Tronick is a developmental and clinical psychologist who explains the essential elements of the book he co-authored, The Power of Discord: Why the Ups and Downs of Relationships Are the Secret to Building Intimacy, Resilience, and Trust.
Amy Herman — The Fine Art of Problem-Solving:
- Amy describes how to solve problems by doing the three things artists do. [2:01]
- How the process of art relates to the art of problem-solving. [5:49]
- To inspire growth, reframe questions to elicit answers and emotions people don’t often share. [8:29]
- Navigating unfamiliar landscapes is a recurring theme in the lessons of Amy’s book, Fixed: How to Perfect the Fine Art of Problem Solving. [21:22]
Amy E. Herman is the founder and president of The Art of Perception, Inc., a New York-based organization that conducts professional development courses for leaders around the world, from Secret Service agents to prison wardens. An art historian and an attorney, Herman holds a BA in international affairs from Lafayette College, a JD from the National Law Center at George Washington University, and a MA in art history from Hunter College.
Book: Fixed: How to Perfect the Fine Art of Problem Solving
Ed Tronick Ph.D. — Deconstructing Discord:
- Ed explains how we handle discord in different types of relationships. [27:20]
- How discord in a relationship can build effective communication, connection and love. [30:17]
- The process of repairing our internal discord is an exercise in creative problem-solving. [36:04]
- The repair of discord makes for something new and special. [50:32]
Ed Tronick, Ph.D., is a developmental and clinical psychologist. He co-founded the Child Development Unit at Boston Children’s hospital and the Touchpoints Program with T. Berry Brazelton. He is currently a University Distinguished Professor of Psychology at the University of Massachusetts Boston, a Research Associate in Newborn Medicine at Harvard Medical School, and director of the Infant-Parent Mental Health Fellowship Program at the University of Massachusetts Boston.
Book: The Power of Discord: Why the Ups and Downs of Relationships Are the Secret to Building Intimacy, Resilience, and Trust
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“Part of the creative process people don’t often understand or embrace is the discipline required.” @LisaKamen on @HH_TalkRadio Click To Tweet“Without problems life would be pretty boring.” @LisaKamen on @HH_TalkRadio Click To Tweet “At the end of the day, the art of problem-solving or the art of communication is about relationship building.” @LisaKamen on @HH_TalkRadio Click To Tweet “I believe our problems bring out our inner procrastinator.” @AmyHermanAOP on @HH_TalkRadio Click To Tweet“When we are faced with a behemoth like a pandemic you can’t solve all your problems at once. It takes weeks or months.” @AmyHermanAOP on @HH_TalkRadio Click To Tweet“When something pushes you to the brink of your emotional limits it is empowering. You know you can go there and you can come back and you will be OK.” @AmyHermanAOP on @HH_TalkRadio Click To Tweet“When we look at art, instead of saying 'do you like this?’, ask ‘what do you see here?’” @AmyHermanAOP on @HH_TalkRadio Click To Tweet“So, problem-solving doesn't have to be this albatross around your next sometimes we have to look at the big picture and small details and say 'well, what is really stymieing here?' Click To Tweet“When you are not aware of your situation it can compromise your safety.” @AmyHermanAOP on @HH_TalkRadio Click To Tweet
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