Grow Wiser: Nourishing Conscious Hearts and Minds with Dilip Jeste MD and Lama Palden Drolma

Original Air Date Wednesday, August 10, 2022 

During the 2000s, the number of people who say they are lonely has doubled and the number of suicides has gone up by 33% in the US. The recent COVID pandemic has only served to exacerbate these conditions. The one group that has fared better in terms of happiness and well-being is the elderly.

To discover why maturity brings resilience and wisdom, Positive Psychology Podcast Host Lisa Cypers Kamen speaks with two authors about unearthing the innate goodness in all of us, nourishing conscious hearts and why it should be shared with younger generations. Dr. Dilip Jeste describes the key tenets of his book, Wiser: The Scientific Roots of Wisdom, Compassion, and What Makes Us Good and describes the importance of multi-generational families. Lama Palden Drolma shares principles from her book and meditation, Love on Every Breath: Tonglen Meditation for Transforming Pain Into Joy, and ways we can be compassionate even to those who challenge us.

Dr. Dilip Jeste — Grow Wiser:

  • Older adults can be a wellspring of wisdom and resilience, especially during times of human suffering. [3:00]
  • We can learn to be wiser or accelerate the accumulation of wisdom but we need social connection, empathy, conscious hearts, and compassion. [6:03]
  • Dr. Jeste offers tips to broaden compassion and empathy. [11:38]
  • Dr. Dilip Jeste explains why he focuses his time on Positive Psychiatry and treating the whole person for optimal living. [14:28]
  • Tracking the happiness level of the average human and how a grandparents’ involvement in a child’s life is beneficial. [19:53/li>
  • The Serenity prayer continues to be a guide for Dr. Jeste. [22:20]

Dilip Jeste, guest of harvesting happiness podcast about conscious hearts with Lama Palden DrolmaDilip Jeste, MD, is the senior associate dean for healthy aging and senior care, professor of psychiatry and neurosciences, and director of the Center for Healthy Aging at UC San Diego. He is the past president of the American Psychiatric Association. A neuropsychiatrist specializing in geriatric issues, Jeste has spent more than 20 years studying aspects of healthy aging and the neurobiological roots of wisdom.

Book: Wiser: The Scientific Roots of Wisdom, Compassion, and What Makes Us Good


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Lama Palden Drolma— Nourishing Conscious Hearts:

  • Lama Palden Drolma shares her passion for Buddhism and how she moved from student to teacher after finding her guide. [27:27]
  • Lama’s Love on Every Breath is a profound meditation that inhales suffering and expels white light and healing energy. [32:42]
  • Lama explains why we hold our breath when we feel stress or anxiety. [39:26]
  • Lama explains the connection between self-love and giving love and compassion to those we may find challenging. [42:48]
  • The cultivation of love and compassion is a major part of the spiritual path of Tibetan Buddhism. [41:17]
  • The intention of love is a very active process and part of a human’s true nature. [48:40]

Lama Palden Drolma, guest of harvesting happiness podcast about conscious hearts with Dilip Jeste MDLama Palden Drolma is the author of Love on Every Breath. A licensed psychotherapist, spiritual teacher, and coach, she has studied Buddhism in the Himalayas with some of the most preeminent Tibetan masters of the twentieth century. Following a traditional three-year retreat under his guidance, Kalu Rinpoche authorized her to become one of the first Western lamas. She subsequently founded the Sukhasiddhi Foundation, a Tibetan Buddhist teaching center in Fairfax, California.

Book: Love on Every Breath: Tonglen Meditation for Transforming Pain Into Joy


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This podcast episode of Harvesting Happiness Talk Radio about conscious hearts is sponsored by:

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