Cultivating the Courage to Change and Breaking Destructive Cycles that Bind Us with Ken D. Foster, Dr. Seth Kadish, & Teri Jensen MFT
Original Air Date Wednesday, December 23, 2020
Challenges are a fact of life and some of us face the same challenges time and time again. And even though we may not recognize it, many of our deep-seated patterns have their origins in our early childhoods.
Becoming cognizant of our patterns is the first step in overcoming the fear and shame that resides at the base of our unconscious actions. It is only after we recognize our fears for what they are that we can lift the veil that created our blind spots and move forward toward courage. To better understand the processes and strategies that breakthrough destructive cycles, Positive Psychology Podcast Host, Lisa Cypers Kamen speaks with Ken Foster, an author and expert in business development and marketing about how to take the necessary steps to embody courage and transform your vision into reality. And, Dr. Seth Kadish and Teri Jensen MFT, the duo behind the Pop Your Pattern Youtube channel, speak about the process of becoming aware of the patterns that perpetuate recurring challenges in our lives.
- What gets in the way of our ability to overcome challenges? [1:58]
- The art of developing courage. [4:00]
- The paradox of change and taking the first steps toward courage. [7:59]
- The connection between fear and courage. [18:03]
- Ken’s personal story of how he outsourced support. [23:33]
Ken D. Foster has spent the last 21 years empowering entrepreneurs, business owners, and executives to stretch out of their comfort zones. He is an expert in the field of business development and marketing. Ken is an influential voice in workplace trends helping countless numbers of clients execute management strategies, vision, and values to create sustainable businesses growth and increased fulfillment.
Book: The Courage to Change Everything
Dr. Seth Kadish & Teri Jensen MFT — Breaking Destructive Cycles:
- Discovering and shifting negative relationship patterns. [29:27]
- Dr. Kadish and Teri describe the top 3 problem patterns people have and the interventions they use to diminish them. [32:23]
- The Pop Your Pattern Youtube channel includes free 10-minute videos about people-pleasing, control, and shame. [44:01]
- An improvisation highlighting an intervention for a familiar people-pleasing pattern. [51:09]
Dr. Seth C. Kadish, Psy.D. is the Director of Group Therapy at PCH in Mar Vista and former Clinical Director of Milestones Ranch Malibu. He is the creator of Pattern Identification and Reduction TherapyTM, a clinical approach based on his work in prison, group home, private practice and treatment center and is the author of Pop Your Patterns: The No-Nonsense Way to Change Your Life.
Teri Jenson, MFT is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with additional training and certifications in Seeking Safety, MAP, Dialectical Behavior Therapy, and Reflective Parenting modalities. Teri works as a clinical specialist at UCLA-NPI in the department of behavioral health services and is the founder of Insight and Wellness Urban Retreats and Wellness Coaching.
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“The mind is so powerful that oftentimes we believe everything we think and feel. The reality is thoughts and feelings are not facts.” @LisaKamen on @HH_TalkRadio Click To Tweet“Oftentimes we find ourselves in dynamics that replicate themselves because it's familiar. Discomfort becomes the comfort zone.” @LisaKamen on @HH_TalkRadio Click To Tweet “We are all in a living laboratory as we try to sort ourselves out.” @LisaKamen on @HH_TalkRadio Click To Tweet“If we, everyday, drip astute wisdom, combine it with proven wealth principles and then take daily actions we will eventually overcome anything in our lives.” @voicesofcourageshow on @HH_TalkRadio Click To Tweet “We were all born as infinite beings and as an infinite being we have the power to transcend just about anything.” @voicesofcourageshow on @HH_TalkRadio Click To Tweet“With practice, after a while, courage comes.” @voicesofcourageshow on @HH_TalkRadio Click To Tweet“When we tune into courage it will push us past any personal limitations so we can transcend the difficulties in our business and life.” @voicesofcourageshow on @HH_TalkRadio Click To Tweet “Negative thoughts come when you have a fear of something. It's a fear of not getting what you want or of losing what you have.” @voicesofcourageshow on @HH_TalkRadio Click To Tweet“We all have negative patterns of thought, emotion and behavior that impact our lives.” — Dr. Seth Kadish on @HH_TalkRadio Click To Tweet“Once you identify a pattern and see it in real time you can then work to change it.” — Teri Jenson MFT on @HH_TalkRadio Click To Tweet“In studying the origins of people pleasing we find that the person's parent was or is alcoholic, depressive, or violent. The child learns to placate or soothe the upset parent.” — Dr. Seth Kadish on @HH_TalkRadio Click To Tweet“We help clients to not feel shame about shame.” — Dr. Seth Kadish on @HH_TalkRadio Click To Tweet“When something is too much or not serving you in an effective way that is when you want to transform or change it.” — Teri Jenson MFT on @HH_TalkRadio Click To Tweet“We all have our blind spots. We have people close to us who will recognize in us what we can't see in ourselves.” — Dr. Seth Kadish on @HH_TalkRadio Click To Tweet “An effective intervention for people pleasers is for them to pause before agreeing to anything you are not certain of.” — Dr. Seth Kadish on @HH_TalkRadio Click To Tweet
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