Learning to Grow Vital Relationships Through Conversations That Matter with Celeste Headlee and Ronald J. Frederick PhD

Original Air Date Wednesday, March 11, 2020 

When we are infants our first relationships create a blueprint for which all of our future relationships are based. As we engage with others through personal interactions and conversations, our brains sync up and we build rapport and form relationships. But, only if we are having face-to-face conversations and we are actively engaged in listening to the other person. To discuss the effects our first caregivers and modern technology have on the quality of our relationships, Positive Psychology Podcast Host, Lisa Cypers Kamen speaks with two authors who wish to reignite conversations that matter within our vital relationships. Celeste Headlee describes the chemicals our body creates when we have different kinds of conversations. And, Ronald Frederick discusses how we can change the quality of our relationships by becoming emotionally mindful.

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Celeste Headlee — Conversations that Matter:
  • Celeste shares what inspired her to write We Need to Talk: How to Have Conversations that Matter. [1:31]
  • Fed by our devices, our dopamine addiction keeps us from in-person conversations and interactions. [6:07]
  • How to start having serotonin-inducing conversations. [9:59]
  • Ways to become a better listener and conversationalist. [21:38]

Celeste Headlee is an award-winning journalist, professional speaker and author of Heard Mentality and We Need To Talk: How To Have Conversations That Matter. Celeste’s TEDx Talk sharing 10 ways to have a better conversation has over 20 million total views to date.
Book: We Need to Talk: How to Have Conversations that Matter



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Ronald J. Frederick — Learning to Grow Vital Relationships:
  • An example of how our relationship blueprint is written for a human infant and how patterns play out in life. [37:23]
  • Ron’s book, Loving Like You Mean It is about how we can bring our most mindful selves to relationships. [41:01]
  • The 4-step process to cultivate emotional mindfulness. [46:05]

Ron Frederick, Ph.D has devoted his career to the practice and teaching of the transformational power of emotional and relational experience. As a clinical psychologist, he studies the neuroscience of emotion and interpersonal connection, drawing on both evidence-based research and attachment theory to offer clients proven strategies for overcoming fear of intimacy and emotional distress to grow deeper and more meaningful relationships.

Book: Loving Like You Mean It: Use the Power of Emotional Mindfulness to Transform Your Relationships


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