Positive Parenting Raises Optimistic and Self-Assured Children with Dr. Tina Payne Bryson & Shauna Shapiro
Original Air Date Wednesday, August 4, 2021
There is no perfect way to help children build resilient, empathetic, and emotionally secure foundations that support them through adulthood. There is no instruction manual and there is no definitive right way. One approach parents can take is to be mindful and compassionate, with themselves first and then with their children. To find out more about how parents can raise optimistic and self-assured kids, Positive Psychology Podcast Host Lisa Cypers Kamen speaks with two psychotherapists about positive parenting strategies that help create stability in a child’s life. Dr. Tina Payne Bryson describes enlightening approaches from her book, The Yes Brain: How to Cultivate Courage, Curiosity, and Resilience in Your Child. And Dr. Shauna Shapiro discusses the five essential elements of mindful discipline from her book, Mindful Discipline: A Loving Approach to Setting Limits and Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child.
Dr. Tina Payne Bryson — Positive Parenting Styles:
- The true meaning of discipline is education and skill-building. [2:38]
- A parent’s goal is to move a child from a reactive state and into a responsive state. [5:14]
- Empathy is a practical, effective, scientific strategy. [16:44]
- The role of the prefrontal cortex in a child’s ability to make good decisions. [21:11]
- Attachment figures don’t have to be perfect, they just need to be there. [24:38]
Dr. Tina Payne Bryson is co-author (with Dr. Dan Siegel) of The Yes Brain (Random House, 2018), as well as two New York Times bestsellers The Whole-Brain Child, and No-Drama Discipline. She is a psychotherapist and the Founder/Executive Director of The Center for Connection and Play Strong Institute in Pasadena, California, where she offers parenting consultations and provides therapy to children and adolescents. She’s also a mom to three boys.
Book: The Yes Brain: How to Cultivate Courage, Curiosity, and Resilience in Your Child
Dr. Shauna Shapiro — Optimistic and Self-Assured Children:
- Positive Parenting with mindfulness and discipline to create emotionally fit children. [32:01]
- When working with children, make mindfulness natural and fun. [39:15]
- Dr. Shapiro describes the intent behind her book, Mindful Discipline. [40:53]
- The Five Essential Elements of Mindful Discipline. [44:11]
- How to use mistakes as opportunities. [51:39]
- How mindfulness leads to transformation. [54:21]]
Shauna Shapiro, Ph.D. is a professor at Santa Clara University, a clinical psychologist, and an internationally recognized expert in mindfulness. A recipient of the American Council of Learned Societies teaching award, acknowledging her outstanding contributions to education and a fellow of the Mind and Life Institute co-founded by the Dalai Lama, Dr. Shapiro lectures and leads mindfulness programs internationally and has been invited to present for the King of Thailand, the Danish Government, and the World Council for Psychotherapy, Beijing, China. Dr. Shapiro’s work has been featured in Wired Magazine, USA Today, the Huffington Post, Yoga Journal, and The American Psychologist.
Book: Mindful Discipline: A Loving Approach to Setting Limits and Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child
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